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Training in and for Shibari

For Shibari, you use motor skills for tying, suspension, etc., and skills in human interaction to create the desired situation. These two things interact and are separated only theoretically.

It seems possible to train the shibari-specific interaction skill alone without the tying itself but more often you see training the motor skills.
The advantage of motor skill training for tying and tied person is faster progress in tying skills and safe suspension. But there are also pitfalls in this approach.

 

Maybe you remember your feeling when you tied your first time or were tied for the first time. This feeling will get lost if you do motor training too much. Maybe after the fifth time doing the handcuff you start talking or after the tenth time of being tied in the TK, you start looking around at what the other people do. Doing this a few times and the initial excitement will change, and a habit will be created.

When you and your partner automatically switch into training mode when you open the rope bag then it will be very difficult to change this again into excitement. In my experience, the couples often split up in this state. With other partners, they start again with excitement.
Luckily the emotional aspect is often more dependent on human interaction than motor skills. With a balanced program, a teacher can adapt the subject matter to the couple right from the beginning.

There is no right or wrong. Of course, you can do great shibari with a focus on motor skills. Everyone is free to do so. But don’t expect to start 6 months with motor skills and switch then to a deep emotional type of interaction with your partner during tying.

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